The Shared Ecosystem

Relationships are the ecosystem in which our souls grow.

When the roots of a partnership or family are tangled in conflict, silence, or trauma, the entire system suffers. At Roots Healing, we don't just teach communication skills — we use the science of connection to heal the foundation of your most important bonds.

Relationship Assessments

Know where you actually stand.

Before we treat, we assess. Two structured tools to map your relationship's strengths, friction points, and growth edges.

The Gottman Relationship Checkup A comprehensive, research-backed online assessment that covers 480+ questions across friendship, intimacy, conflict, values, and trust. Each partner completes it separately. I review the results and we use them to focus our sessions on what's actually driving the patterns.
Pre-Therapy Couple's Intake A guided intake conversation in our first session. We look at your shared story, your turning points, and what each of you is hoping to walk away with. Useful even if you're not sure whether you're ready for full couples therapy yet.
Conflict & Communication Assessment A targeted look at the "Four Horsemen" — criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling — and your repair patterns. Identifies which dynamics are most active in your relationship.

Our Core Modality

The Gottman Method

We use the Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships — the most researched and evidence-based approach to couples therapy in the world.

Disarm Conflict. Replace the "Four Horsemen" with healthy dialogue.
Build the Sound Relationship House. Strengthen friendship, manage conflict, create shared meaning.
Restore the Friendship System. Re-map your partner's internal world to regain intimacy.

For couples

Couples Therapy & Marriage Intensives

For couples feeling the weight of distance or "roommate syndrome."

The Assessment. A deep-dive evaluation of your relationship's strengths and challenges.
The Weed Clearing. Using ART or CMI when individual trauma is interfering with the couple's connection.
The Goal. Moving from gridlock to compromise — and rediscovering why you chose each other.

For parents

Parenting & Co-Parenting Ecosystems

Healing the relationship between parent and child by looking at neurodevelopment and attachment.

The Science of Tantrums. Understanding your child's brain so you can respond instead of react.
Breaking Cycles. Identifying the generational weeds you may be unintentionally passing down.
Present Parenting. Tools for staying regulated while your child is dysregulated.

When trust is shattered

Relational Trauma & Betrayal Recovery

Specialized support for relationships rocked by infidelity, addiction, or deep betrayal.

The "Atone, Attune, Attach" Framework. A structured path to rebuilding trust.
Individual Integration. Both partners doing their own root work to support the couple's healing.
Honest Re-contracting. Defining what the relationship can be moving forward — without pretending what happened didn't.

Relational Healing.